Mom-of-three, 23, reveals how she went from being a ‘raging feminist’ to a ‘conservative tradwife’
A 23-year-old woman has told how she went from being a ‘raging feminist’ to a fully-fledged 1950s-style housewife and has no regrets about choosing family life as her career path.
Madison Dastrup, from Cedar City, Utah, posts regular content on TikTok – where she has almost 70,000 follows – and in one clip she reveals that she is a completely different person to the one she was six years ago after becoming a ‘conservative tradwife’ and having three children.
‘Tradwives’ – short for traditional wives – have steadily increased in numbers over recent years and Madison explains in her TikToks just what the role of a tradwife involves.
In one video she says: ‘Homemakers do all of the housework, they take care of the children, they take care of the husband, they take care of the home and it’s not because they’re forced but it’s just because that’s what they want to do. Homemaking is a career, homemakers do this for a lifetime.’
Madison says homemakers are different to stay-at-home-moms, who return to their careers after raising children, but she makes a point of stating that neither is better or more deserving than the other.
Madison Dastrup, from Cedar City, Utah, is a tradwife and posts regular content on TikTok
She says she is a completely different person to the one she was six years ago. Previously she said she was a ‘raging feminist’ but now she is a ‘conservative tradwife’
On TikTok Madison posts tongue-in-cheek videos in response to people who are critical of her lifestyle. Many viewers have praised her for standing her ground
The mom-of-three also thanks her husband, who she married in 2018, for his support
Via Instagram and TikTok, Madison offers a glimpse of her life behind the scenes.
On Instagram, many of her posts focus on her culinary activities.
In one photo she can be seen frosting a batch of cinnamon rolls while wearing an apron, and in another she reveals her recipe for a hearty potato soup.
She can also be seen in a TikTok packing her ‘blue collar’ husband’s lunch box up, with some of the treats including Doritos, a can of Mountain Dew, and homemade bacon and cheese-wrapped chicken breasts.
Doing laundry and collecting hen eggs are other activities she can be seen doing.
On TikTok Madison also posts tongue-in-cheek videos in response to people who are critical of her lifestyle.
In one video, featuring an overlaid caption reading ‘whenever people ask what I went to school for’, she tells viewers that she got her ‘MRS degree’.
She then explains to a voiceover asking what the acronym stands for: ‘You know like a Mrs, you know like when you want to be a housewife.’
On Instagram, many of her posts focus on her culinary activities
In one clip she can be seen frosting a batch of cinnamon rolls while wearing an apron
Madison says of her husband: ‘He works so hard and is able to give our babies almost anything they could want and everything they need’
Looking ahead, Madison says after having three babies in three years, 2023 is her year to focus on herself so she can ‘in return, be a better wife and mom’
An antiquated trend or a the key to a happy life? What is a ‘tradwife’
Short for ‘traditional wife,’ the term describe a female home-maker who abides by traditional gender roles.
The term was born in 2018, after the movement spread on social media, including Instagram and Youtube.
A tradwife refers to a homemaker who loves nothing more than to clean, fix meals, tidy the house for her family while her husband is the sole bread earner of the household.
It goes one step further than being a stay-at-home mother, with the woman being responsible with the more traditional aspects of housework and childcare.
The term is controversial as it has been associated with far right rhetoric since some white supremacist tradwives came out as Trump supporters in 2018
Source: Urban dictionary and The New York Times
Many viewers have praised Madison for standing her ground.
TikToker @VictoriaKrych wrote: ‘This would work great against the trolls and bullies that say being a mom and housewife isn’t HARD WORK at all or a real job.’
And @EsperanzHernandez said that she also decided to be a housewife and ‘almost one year into the journey and I LOVE IT!’
In other posts, Madison talks candidly about her battle with postpartum psychosis and how having a miscarriage at nine weeks was another thing that impacted her mental health.
The mom-of-three also thanks her husband, who she married in 2018, for his unwavering support.
She captioned one photo showing her holding his hand: ‘He works so hard so I can stay home with our babies, so we can have clothes on our backs, and food on the table.
‘He works so hard and is able to give our babies almost anything they could want and everything they need.
‘He encourages me to get my nails done and enables my Starbucks addiction. Taking care of our family one job site at a time and I’m so thankful.
‘There’s good men out there and I lucked out with one of the best ones.’
Looking ahead, Madison says after having three babies in three years, 2023 is her year to focus on herself so she can ‘in return, be a better wife and mom.’
Offering a piece of advice to other moms, she concludes: ‘Don’t pour from an empty cup!! This post is a reminder to do something for yourself.’